The Blessing of Heartbreak

We’ve all been there-

Lying on the bed with tear-stained pillowcases. Trying to decipher whether you’re more angry or heartbroken. Questioning why it had to end.

It’s the stages of grief. The mourning of an ended relationship.

But what if I told you…that’s exactly what God needed?

He heals the broken-hearted and bandages their wounds.-2

For about a year now I’ve been in an on-and-off-again relationship with a man I loved very much. We broke up several times because things just “weren’t right,” but nonetheless we always got back together- be it the fear of being alone or the tricky ways of the heart. I knew after about 7 months that this couldn’t be what God had planned for me, but I am a sucker for a good apology and a sincere voice.

A few days ago, he broke it off with me for good. The guy that always begged for another chance decided this time he wanted to leave.

I went through the stages (quickly, but intensely) and now I realize this is just what needed to happen.

God gave me multiple chances to walk away myself- and though I did, I never stayed away for long. But He needed it final. He needed me to himself and I wasn’t letting that happen. The only other option was to force me into the breakup. But here is why that’s a blessing:

This gave me the opportunity to finally let go of something that wasn’t right for me. I didn’t need to feel the pressure of making the wrong decision. I didn’t need to worry about how the other side felt. For an overly empathetic woman like me, this was the best way to move on.

But the greatest blessing of all is how a broken heart can lead towards the Lord. He called me out of this bad relationship to pursue Him further. He wants a deeper connection, and for me to have a deeper understanding. When it’s time, he’ll send the “one,” but for now- it may just be time to focus on me and my faith.

So here’s the truth in this lesson.

God has a plan for you. Sometimes the plan He has doesn’t match yours. Sometimes the people you love aren’t good for you. Sometimes heartbreak needs to happen before God’s plan can become a reality. But you are in the hands of a good, good Father and what He has coming is nothing compared to your wildest dreams. So this heartbreak is a blessing in disguise. He will use this pain to create a better you and this grief you have will be no more.

2 Replies to “The Blessing of Heartbreak”

  1. Your story reminds me of the words of Jesus in Matthew 5: 4 (Message Bible):

    4 “You’re blessed when you feel you’ve lost what is most dear to you. Only then can you be embraced by the One most dear to you…

    8 “You’re blessed when you get your inside world—your mind and heart—put right. Then you can see God in the outside world.

    5 You’re blessed when you’re content with just who you are—no more, no less. That’s the moment you find yourselves proud owners of everything that can’t be bought…

    Thank you for sharing your story. I would such as you journal your path to wholeness – pain, comfort and all. It would be a blessing to you and others as God restored you fully

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    1. That is an amazing point. Matthew really does connect here. Guess I should be reading that chapter this week!

      I’ll definitely think about journaling this experience. I’m currently writing a novel about my life and God’s grace as it is!

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